A Frog in a Pot Will Boil
You may have heard the factoid about boiling a frog (please don’t try this at home)…
…if you drop a frog into boiling water it will immediately jump out of the pot. But if you put a frog into a pot of water and slowly raise the temperature it will sit there until it’s cooked.
Why does this work? The consistency of the water temperature slowly rising makes the frog adapt to its situation
The same is true with children. If we set consistent behavioral limits the child will adapt and maintain these rules. It’s when parents waiver or give in that the rules of the household become blurred and the child begins to exhibit poor behavior – either out of frustration, anger, confusion or a little bit of all three.
Consistency is the Key
Consistency makes it easier for kids to learn how far they can go. Testing boundaries is a natural part of maturing, but that doesn’t mean you have to give in.
The consistency ”tool’ is critical to any parenting plan. Setting limits that are followed without drama and repeated battles is the glue that makes good behavior stick. Without consistency your “little frog” will quickly jump out of the proverbial pot and continue to ignore and disregard any further limits. Once these learned-behaviors take hold they are very difficult to eradicate.