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A Frog in a Pot Will Boil

You may have heard the factoid about boiling a frog (please don’t try this at home)…

…if you drop a frog into boiling water it will immediately jump out of the pot.  But if you put a frog into a pot of water and slowly raise the temperature it will sit there until it’s cooked.

Why does this work?  The consistency of the water temperature slowly rising makes the frog adapt to its situation

The same is true with children. If we set consistent behavioral limits the child will adapt and maintain these rules.  It’s when parents waiver or give in that the rules of the household become blurred and the child begins to exhibit poor behavior – either out of frustration, anger, confusion or a little bit of all three.

Consistency is the Key

Consistency makes it easier for kids to learn how far they can go.  Testing boundaries is a natural part of maturing, but that doesn’t mean you have to give in.

The consistency ”tool’ is critical to any parenting plan.  Setting limits that are followed without drama and repeated battles is the glue that makes good behavior stick. Without consistency your “little frog” will quickly jump out of the proverbial pot and continue to ignore and disregard any further limits.  Once these learned-behaviors take hold they are very difficult to eradicate.

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By Orla Kelly

Looking back, life before having a child with special needs seems a world apart from the one that I now find myself in. Not worse, just different. For every bad day, there have been good ones too. Where there was sadness, I found something to laugh at. Where there was stress, I somehow managed to find some peace. Every time I said to myself I cannot take any more, I found a way to cope.

The reality is that no parent of a child with special needs has signed up for the roller-coaster they now find themselves on and there is no stop button and nowhere to get off. The thing is that you live for the highs and learn to cope and adapt to the lows and life simply goes on.

Yes it is complicated at times, things can change in a heartbeat and the best plans need to be put on hold or adapted as situations arise.

Some people may marvel at how well you are coping and say they could never do this or do that but the reality is what choice does any parent have who finds themselves as the main carer of their child with special needs?

Parents with kids who have a special need are not saints or martyrs. We experience the same bag of emotions as other parents do but perhaps if I may say it, our emotions may be a little more intense based on the emotional nature of what we do and the level of involvement we have and need to have in the lives of our special kids.

Yes there are times that emotions can come to the surface, other times they bubble away under the surface and again there are times I feel cool, calm and collected!

Being in tune with my emotions has helped me best serve my son. I know myself enough to know when to be kind to myself, when I simply need to take a little time just for me and I have learned to do this relatively guilt free now!

Having a special needs child not only impacts on the entire childs life but it also affects the entire family. Parents also juggle caring for a special needs child, in addition to caring for other sibling children, running a household, working, trying to keep relationships meaningful in their lives and trying their best to have a normal life.

In recognition of the thousands of parents of children with special needs across the globe, I would like to pay the last tribute to you with the following

“Anyone can give up; it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” – Christopher Reeves

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by Janessa Mertz

Kids are of all kinds. Some are lenient, some are defiant – you can also see everything in between. When you talk about disciplining kids, it is about helping them focus on their behavior, lifetime goals, everything worth the achieving. Respectful behavior, punctuality, strong will, etc are parts of positive child discipline.

You are doing a serious disservice to your kids if you let your kids do whatever they want to. Disciplining kids is essentially helping your kids gain the self-discipline they need for their life. Self-discipline, when combined with motivation can do wonders in the life of your kids. Self-discipline prevents a kid from inappropriate behavior. It also helps them take strong decisions when the time demands it. They abstain from destructive habits. It all starts with positive child discipline.

Children sometimes need punishments. It is not about toddlers. They are too young to learn discipline from punishments. However, if kids misbehave, you must set them right.It teaches them about rules and limits. The rules and limits appropriate for the age and temperament of the kids teach them to control their behavior and action in any given situation. Thus, effective punishments are part of disciplining kids. However, there is a lot to discipline than punishments.

However, you should give your kids good opportunities to develop into individuals who respect themselves, and others. With positive child discipline, you can also teach your kids the ways of winners.

One of the most effective ways of disciplining is leading by example. If you teach your kids not to yell or shout, you do so by not yelling or shouting under pressure situations. By talking in a firm voice, you teach your kids that straight and clear communication is a good thing.By not throwing your books and belongings, you teach your kids the importance of respecting your belongings. By being at the party, meeting, or church at the right time, you teach your kids to respect time. These are all aspects of positive child discipline.

Indiscipline, as knowledgeable people have told you is a weed that destroys a person. Self-discipline helps one make choices appropriate for the situations and conductive to his/her long term goals. When you achieve these goals with disciplining kids, your efforts fructify.

Teach your kids the ways of successful people early in their lives. Let them grow as individuals of high self-esteem, self-reliance, and decision-making capabilities. Disciplining kids is like giving your kids the tools they need for a highly successful life.

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