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A Frog in a Pot Will Boil

You may have heard the factoid about boiling a frog (please don’t try this at home)…

…if you drop a frog into boiling water it will immediately jump out of the pot.  But if you put a frog into a pot of water and slowly raise the temperature it will sit there until it’s cooked.

Why does this work?  The consistency of the water temperature slowly rising makes the frog adapt to its situation

The same is true with children. If we set consistent behavioral limits the child will adapt and maintain these rules.  It’s when parents waiver or give in that the rules of the household become blurred and the child begins to exhibit poor behavior – either out of frustration, anger, confusion or a little bit of all three.

Consistency is the Key

Consistency makes it easier for kids to learn how far they can go.  Testing boundaries is a natural part of maturing, but that doesn’t mean you have to give in.

The consistency ”tool’ is critical to any parenting plan.  Setting limits that are followed without drama and repeated battles is the glue that makes good behavior stick. Without consistency your “little frog” will quickly jump out of the proverbial pot and continue to ignore and disregard any further limits.  Once these learned-behaviors take hold they are very difficult to eradicate.

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by Janessa Mertz

Kids are of all kinds. Some are lenient, some are defiant – you can also see everything in between. When you talk about disciplining kids, it is about helping them focus on their behavior, lifetime goals, everything worth the achieving. Respectful behavior, punctuality, strong will, etc are parts of positive child discipline.

You are doing a serious disservice to your kids if you let your kids do whatever they want to. Disciplining kids is essentially helping your kids gain the self-discipline they need for their life. Self-discipline, when combined with motivation can do wonders in the life of your kids. Self-discipline prevents a kid from inappropriate behavior. It also helps them take strong decisions when the time demands it. They abstain from destructive habits. It all starts with positive child discipline.

Children sometimes need punishments. It is not about toddlers. They are too young to learn discipline from punishments. However, if kids misbehave, you must set them right.It teaches them about rules and limits. The rules and limits appropriate for the age and temperament of the kids teach them to control their behavior and action in any given situation. Thus, effective punishments are part of disciplining kids. However, there is a lot to discipline than punishments.

However, you should give your kids good opportunities to develop into individuals who respect themselves, and others. With positive child discipline, you can also teach your kids the ways of winners.

One of the most effective ways of disciplining is leading by example. If you teach your kids not to yell or shout, you do so by not yelling or shouting under pressure situations. By talking in a firm voice, you teach your kids that straight and clear communication is a good thing.By not throwing your books and belongings, you teach your kids the importance of respecting your belongings. By being at the party, meeting, or church at the right time, you teach your kids to respect time. These are all aspects of positive child discipline.

Indiscipline, as knowledgeable people have told you is a weed that destroys a person. Self-discipline helps one make choices appropriate for the situations and conductive to his/her long term goals. When you achieve these goals with disciplining kids, your efforts fructify.

Teach your kids the ways of successful people early in their lives. Let them grow as individuals of high self-esteem, self-reliance, and decision-making capabilities. Disciplining kids is like giving your kids the tools they need for a highly successful life.

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by Heriberto Pitts

Our office allows their employees to bring their children every now and then to the workplace. Usually children act shyly at first but it is a as long as they will soon start to roam around and explore things. Almost all of the women at the office have kids and once or another, they have already brought their kids to work. Although, there is this child who stood differently among all the other kids. He tears up papers, he runs around, he slaps others, and now and again he breaks things like calculators and staplers. He is constantly moving and doing different things. He disrupts everyone with his antics to get one’s attention. One of our research consultants who happen to be a psychologist, too, asked the child’s mother if their child behaves like that all the time. When the mother said yes, our research consultant suspected that the child has hyper-aggressive behavioral problem.

Hyper activism-aggressiveness is probably one of the major behavioral problems prevalent among children ages 5-11 years of age (Pearson, Child Developmental Psychology). Children who have this behavioral problem are frequently violent with other people and do things hurriedly. They are frequently irritated and moody, have short attention span and ignore you when you call their attention. When parents observe these manifestations with their kids, the best way to address this situation is to be calm, understanding and open-minded.

The psychologist said the one method to handle youngsters with this behavioral problem is to channel their hyper activism to sports and other creative pursuits. Let them exhaust that energy by doing sports, with the parents consistently encouraging them to excel in it. Make them watch documentary films that have slow pacing so that it may in some manner influence and lower their constant moving. Chat to the children and make them understand and empathize that hurting people is not good. Avoid hitting and spanking their youngster as this can be misinterpreted by the child as the proper way to handle strain and mood swings. Physical abuse will only exacerbate the problem and won’t help you in addressing your child.

In severe occasions, a kid with this behavioral problem will not listen to you. It would be fine if you make him stand at the corner without speaking to him and afterward explain to him the reasons why you did that. It is in addition best if you talk to a psychologist for early detection and intervention.

But what causes this hyper activism-aggressiveness among children? Before you blame yourself, you should realize that there is no conclusive evidence that it is solely the result of genetics. A great deal of experts in medical and psychological fields think that genes only predispose one to have behavioral issues rather than directly inducing the person to have it. Majority of the specialists still think that nature and nurture complete the equation of having behavioral issues.

Always remember that our children deserve unconditional love and understanding from their family. Handle the position by embracing it with an openness with which you’d be able to forego all negative reaction to the issue. And since this is the moment when your child needs support and care from others, it’ll be best to assure their youngster that he/she has the whole family behind her/his back.

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