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A Frog in a Pot Will Boil

You may have heard the factoid about boiling a frog (please don’t try this at home)…

…if you drop a frog into boiling water it will immediately jump out of the pot.  But if you put a frog into a pot of water and slowly raise the temperature it will sit there until it’s cooked.

Why does this work?  The consistency of the water temperature slowly rising makes the frog adapt to its situation

The same is true with children. If we set consistent behavioral limits the child will adapt and maintain these rules.  It’s when parents waiver or give in that the rules of the household become blurred and the child begins to exhibit poor behavior – either out of frustration, anger, confusion or a little bit of all three.

Consistency is the Key

Consistency makes it easier for kids to learn how far they can go.  Testing boundaries is a natural part of maturing, but that doesn’t mean you have to give in.

The consistency ”tool’ is critical to any parenting plan.  Setting limits that are followed without drama and repeated battles is the glue that makes good behavior stick. Without consistency your “little frog” will quickly jump out of the proverbial pot and continue to ignore and disregard any further limits.  Once these learned-behaviors take hold they are very difficult to eradicate.

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by Heriberto Pitts

Our office allows their employees to bring their children every now and then to the workplace. Usually children act shyly at first but it is a as long as they will soon start to roam around and explore things. Almost all of the women at the office have kids and once or another, they have already brought their kids to work. Although, there is this child who stood differently among all the other kids. He tears up papers, he runs around, he slaps others, and now and again he breaks things like calculators and staplers. He is constantly moving and doing different things. He disrupts everyone with his antics to get one’s attention. One of our research consultants who happen to be a psychologist, too, asked the child’s mother if their child behaves like that all the time. When the mother said yes, our research consultant suspected that the child has hyper-aggressive behavioral problem.

Hyper activism-aggressiveness is probably one of the major behavioral problems prevalent among children ages 5-11 years of age (Pearson, Child Developmental Psychology). Children who have this behavioral problem are frequently violent with other people and do things hurriedly. They are frequently irritated and moody, have short attention span and ignore you when you call their attention. When parents observe these manifestations with their kids, the best way to address this situation is to be calm, understanding and open-minded.

The psychologist said the one method to handle youngsters with this behavioral problem is to channel their hyper activism to sports and other creative pursuits. Let them exhaust that energy by doing sports, with the parents consistently encouraging them to excel in it. Make them watch documentary films that have slow pacing so that it may in some manner influence and lower their constant moving. Chat to the children and make them understand and empathize that hurting people is not good. Avoid hitting and spanking their youngster as this can be misinterpreted by the child as the proper way to handle strain and mood swings. Physical abuse will only exacerbate the problem and won’t help you in addressing your child.

In severe occasions, a kid with this behavioral problem will not listen to you. It would be fine if you make him stand at the corner without speaking to him and afterward explain to him the reasons why you did that. It is in addition best if you talk to a psychologist for early detection and intervention.

But what causes this hyper activism-aggressiveness among children? Before you blame yourself, you should realize that there is no conclusive evidence that it is solely the result of genetics. A great deal of experts in medical and psychological fields think that genes only predispose one to have behavioral issues rather than directly inducing the person to have it. Majority of the specialists still think that nature and nurture complete the equation of having behavioral issues.

Always remember that our children deserve unconditional love and understanding from their family. Handle the position by embracing it with an openness with which you’d be able to forego all negative reaction to the issue. And since this is the moment when your child needs support and care from others, it’ll be best to assure their youngster that he/she has the whole family behind her/his back.

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By Natalie V Van Der Vyver

The focus here, concerning behaviour problems, is on the preventative approach which is key to maintaining positive behaviour in your child. There are many things that can be done to assist and provide support for parents and teachers involved with behaviour problems and issues that are causing concerns both at home or at school for a special needs child. Be consistent when dealing with a child who has behavioural issues, as this will often lead to more productive and positive behaviours. Plan strategies that you can implement regularly when your child is acting out, involved in conflicts, bullying, or being verbally or physically aggressive.

It is very important that you interact positively with your child, and never call the “bad”; it is the behaviour that you are not happy with, and not the child as a person, so make sure that you explain this when your child is acting up.

Acceptable and appropriate behaviour is developmental – it happens over time and can be moulded by parental support and guidance, previous experiences and intervention techniques by teachers and parents.

Occasionally, despite all your efforts to correct and different behavioural techniques, some special needs children will continue to have ongoing behavioural problems.

You cannot be all things to your child at all times, and you may need to look for help and assistance from a professional.

TAKING THE FIRST STEPS…

• If you see your child going something great, praise him! Promote your Childs (self-esteem) and confidence every chance you get.
• When your child takes responsibility well, them know, and keep on providing more opportunities for your child to become responsible.
• Be objective, yet understanding – never loose your patience even though you may be tempted to do so.
• Use your best judgement of the situation, stay objective and try to understand your child’s point of view.
• Even though you may be frustrated – be patient!

THE NEXT STEPS…

• Make your expectations very clear, with a minimal number of rules and routines that have to be followed. Think big, start small
• Involve your child when you are setting the guidelines for new rules and (routines), ask for their help. Make sure they repeat the new schedule, as this will help with the transition and getting them to remember.
• Emphasize your child’s strengths and never their weaknesses.
• When the opportunity presents itself help your child to successful in what they set out to do.
• Repetition, repetition, Repetition – provide opportunities for your child to reiterate what is expected of him. For example: “What happens before and during bath time?”
• Avoid (power struggles) – Nobody Wins!
• Take time to discuss what is appropriate and inappropriate behaviour. This should happen if there was an issue, but only after everyone has calmed down and had a time out.
• Routines – Children with behaviour problems benefit enormously from clearly established routines and schedules – This cannot be stressed enough!
• Teach your child the skills necessary for appropriate behaviour from a very early age.

FINALLY…

So far we have discussed some strategies that you can use to start dealing with and changing your child’s behaviour problems, now it’s time for the implementation stage. You are now ready for the five step plan:

• Pinpoint the behaviour you want to change and be very specific.
• Gather your information – When does the unacceptable behaviour occur? How often and under which circumstances does it happen? What precedes the behaviour? Does it happen when your child is alone, supervised, with others or at a specific time? What is your child’s opinion of his behaviour?
• Now you need to take the time to interpret and analyse the information that you have gathered.
• Now is the time to plan for the changes and set some goals – together with your child. What are the short and the long term goals? Who is involved and what will happen? The plan for change should be a collective effort between you and your child. Be specific about needs to be done and what is expected. In your plan for change, a reward system should be in place, and you can use a rewards chart. It is often easier for a child to visualise what needs to be done and what the end goal is, and far along the road they are.
• Evaluate how your plan is going, and if it is not working, discuss this with your child and make the necessary changes.

Once again, if after several consistent tries you find that your plan is not working, and there have been no noticeable or long term changes in the unacceptable behaviour, you may need to get your child referred to a specialist for some professional help.

Come and visit my Special Needs Child site and get more Information, tips and techniques for raising, loving and parenting a child with special needs.

Special families need to share stories, resources, and information to inspire and motivate each other on this long journey full of ups and downs, raising a child with special needs.

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