By Dr. Larry J. Koenig
Does your child’s behavior ever embarrass you?
I know that may sound like a harsh question to ask, but believe me, as a fellow parent I’ve been there.
If you think you’ve “tried everything” to get your kids behavior to change, but things still aren’t working and you still feel like you just can’t get through to your kids, then stay with me for just a bit.
Because in a few seconds I’m going to tell you about a system that will change EVERYTHING for you – and change it fast. So fast, in fact, that many parents have been able to completely turn around their child’s behavior in two hours or less, and many times in under 60 seconds.
I know that may sound too good to be true, but I assure you, it isn’t.
But first let me tell you my story and how this whole thing came about (don’t worry, it’ll be quick)…
Back before my wife and I instituted a system of “Smart Discipline” in our home, things were chaos. Maybe you know that feeling, too.
Bickering, backtalk, belligerent behavior, bedtime battles, morning fights and insanity just trying to get everyone out the door.
I mean it was bad. Any of that sound familiar?
But here’s the really weird part…
You see, even though I was, and still am, a nationally respected leader in parenting circles (I’ve been called “America’s most-loved parenting expert”), had founded the most successful self-esteem workshop for kids ever (called Up with Youth), and was a family therapist who helped other families deal with issues like this every day, things just weren’t working in my own home.
So while I was out on “the lecture circuit,” my wife was back home with our kids going through sheer craziness each and every day.
Bottom line is I knew I had to fix it. And I did.
Now, I don’t have the space here to spell out the ENTIRE thing for you step by step, but what I do want to do is to share with you here some quick pieces of advice that helped my wife and I “cure” our kids of 37 specific behavior problems that were driving us nuts.
And then in a second I’ll let you know the full story.
Okay, so let’s get started…
1. The source of 90% of your child’s bad behavior is…
Lack of a true system of discipline. What does that mean? Well, the reason most kids misbehave, and then CONTINUE TO MISBEHAVE even after you’ve corrected or disciplined them, is because your rules aren’t clear enough, or because the consequences of breaking those rules isn’t clear enough TO THEM.
Now, I know you’re probably saying, “But, Larry, they know they’re not supposed to do X, Y, and Z but they STILL DO IT. Even after I’ve told them to stop.”
You may think you’ve spelled out the rules, but if your kids continue to repeat the same bad behaviors over and over and over again, then the rules and consequences aren’t clear to them – and that’s what’s important.
More on this in a second.
2. Whose fault is it when children disobey?
Guess what? It’s not their fault.
It’s not your fault either.
I know that sounds silly. I mean, it has to be someone’s fault, doesn’t it?
Actually no, and this goes back to the point I made above.
Discipline problems and bad behavior start when the discipline SYSTEM in your home breaks down.
So let me ask you this…
What IS the system of discipline in your home? Or…do you even have a system of discipline? I mean something that’s written down and spelled out in advance so EVERYONE knows what the rules are AND the consequences of breaking those rules?
If you’re having problems with your child’s behavior, my bet is you don’t.
The good news is that you can fix this in the blink of an eye. Again, more on this in a second.
3. Is it possible to discipline your child without destroying their self esteem?
But unfortunately, so many methods out there don’t do this. In fact, a lot of the advice you hear is going to do the exact opposite. And what you definitely DO NOT want is a system of discipline that chips away at your child’s self-esteem.
Why? Because then you’re just trading one problem for another.
You know what happens to kids who have low self-esteem, right? They grow up having even lower self-esteem, getting involved in drugs, doing poorly in school, and having heartbreakingly dysfunctional relationships even as adults.
So you don’t want a short term “fix” that’s going to cause even bigger problems for you down the road.
So let’s talk about the only solution that makes sense…
The system I developed out of necessity to use with my own kids, the very same system that solved 37 specific behavior problems that were driving my wife and I nuts, has proven so effective that it’s been featured on NPR, PBS and in People and Parent’s Magazine.
The first thing you need to do to get this working in your home NOW, and to finally solve your child’s behavior problems in 2 hours or less, is to go watch this short video and read the free special report I’ve put together for you. Click here now [http://www.smartdisciplinesystem.com/childbehaviorproblems/solvingchildbehaviorproblemsnow.html] to do that.
I’ve spent my entire professional career working with kids and families to develop this “Smart Discipline System” and now I want you to get the same incredible results that tens of thousands of other parents like you have gotten.
So, please, you owe it to yourself to go watch this video on child behavior problems [http://www.smartdisciplinesystem.com/childbehaviorproblems/solvingchildbehaviorproblemsnow.html], read the free special report, and get this fixed in your home now.
Thanks for reading, and let me know how you do!
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